Monday, March 28, 2011

I'm Done

I think I am blogged out. I have things I want to write, but I don't want to put them out there. At least not now.

I'm done with so many things right now. Sometimes it is just too much. So I am going on autopilot until the room stops spinning. Every single aspect of my life feels like it is in limbo. Uncertainty piled on uncertainty.

So I'm done.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

That's Life I Guess

Oh my what a week! I am so very glad that it is over.

Last weekend had a few disappointments attached to it, but nothing major. Monday, however, was awful. It was the start of the last week of the grading period and as always I was behind on my grading. Then I got the message that Velcro was not doing well. He couldn't stand and he was crying during the night. The time had come to say good-bye to my fuzzy boy. We made the appointment for the vet to come to the house that afternoon. I didn't want his last moments to be fearful.

Sadly, his last moments were still fearful and painful. The vet couldn't seem to find the vein, it took multiple tries. And he cried. And I cried. In the end, the vet had moved him so he wasn't looking at his family, but at strangers, when he left us. But he was the best dog I could have asked for. I loved him and he loved me. I know he felt that even at the end.

We buried him in the backyard. SweetE shared Velcro's scrapbook with his class that week for show and tell. The boys seem to be coping well. My little sweetE chose to be with us when Velcro was put to sleep. He says that he misses him. But he has always had a soft spot for animals, especially dogs. Because he is my child, he threw a little levity into the situation by telling me my eyes were red. He followed with "that means you're evil." Dang my secret is out!

I ended the week by sweetE getting sick and spending way too much time finishing my grades. But sweetE felt better today and my grades got done. So no matter what happens, life goes on. And Velcro lives on too in our hearts and memories.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Little of This, Little of That

This weekend, my sweetE made my day, week, month, maybe my year. We were sitting on the couch and I was helping with some knitting. He is using a loom to knit some wrist warmers. I am making him a scarf with my new knitting skills and he wanted to have a project too. So cute! But he looked at me and said, "Mom, you are nice." I replied with a thank you. He then looked me in the eye and said, "I mean it, super nice." Awwwww, melt my heart. I love, love, love that boy.

Today I went to my uncle's funeral. He was one of my dad's many, many siblings. Really, one of 19 children!!!! That makes me one of 50 cousins, and I am the youngest. And I can really only say that I know one of them. But this uncle came to visit fairly regularly so I thought I should go be the family representative. It is a little strange to be in a room of people that you are related to and only know 3 people! But it was a nice service and a pleasant afternoon.

A while back I was talking to my sister, complaining about a conversation with my parents. And she stopped me at one point with the question, "What would make you happy?" I didn't have a concrete answer at that moment, I usually don't. I have to ruminate on things for a while before my subconscious decides to clue me in on what it is thinking. But I figured it out finally. My cousin asked me how things were and let me know that he knew that I had gotten divorced. And then he simply asked me how I was doing. And then having been through a divorce himself once, just let me know that he recognized that it is a hard thing to experience. And I realized that this is what I have been looking for from my family. I want them to genuinely want to know how I am doing and a little validation that this is not a walk in the park. No judgement, no advice, no opinions, just some concern and understanding.

It is hard to believe that it is nearly the end of January already. Time is really flying by. The job search has slowed down. Doesn't look like there are going to be any jobs in education. So, I am focusing on getting those programming skills rocking and looking into software engineering. Trying to fit that into my schedule is making me a little crazy. But I am enjoying puzzling out solutions to programming problems. Why didn't I like it when I was doing it before?!?

OK, those darn essays are not going to grade themselves. Believe me I have been waiting for it to happen!

Monday, January 24, 2011

Just a Little Pampering

My budget is stretched thin these days. I can't say that I am enjoying this situation. If something is going to be thin, I have a whole list to choose from. But I am making due and that is about all I can ask for.

Lately, I have noticed an increase in the number of natural, shockingly blond highlights. And that is entirely unacceptable! Especially since they are usually waving the white flag of surrender. I am NOT ready to surrender. So I spent the evening with my stylist. I feel better now. She worked her usual magic, we got caught up on life and set a date to do it again. My wallet is thinner, but my smile is bigger.

I was feeling tired this morning. SweetP has been sick, so my sleep has been interrupted. So, if you don't feel great, then look great. And dress the way you want to look when headed to your stylist so they can make your head match the rest of you!